Suami Hanya Pinjaman..

Saya selalu thinking a lot tatkala memandu ke pejabat. Time sensorang dalam kereta ni kan...banyak lah perkara yang saya suka fikir. Sebab saya bukan suka sangat mendengar radio while driving.

Pagi ni dalam perjalanan ke pejabat, tiba tiba saya teringat kisah kawan saya semasa sama sama belajar di sekolah menengah dahulu. Satu hari, saya sengaja menelepon dia untuk bertanya khabar. Macam macam perkara kami bualkan. Almaklum, lama tak nyembang kan....sambil sambil tu saya cuba korek rahsia. Kepochi tak hengat. Tu pun, sebab based on the status yang selalu dia letak kat facebook. Status dia memang selalu mengundang spekulasi. Saya serkap jarang je taww....haha. Eventually dia shared juga dengan saya kisah hidupnya. Kisah sedih, kerana kawan saya ni baru sahaja dimadukan. Patutler her facebook status asik yang sedih sedih saya. Saya speechless seketika bila mendengar cerita dia. Ntah lah...pada saya, Suami Hanya Pinjaman from Allah SWT. Whenever Allah wants to take him back from you, He will, whether alive or dead. 

Dalam hidup kita ni, memang kita akan melalui pelbagai dugaan dan rintangan. Pahit manis, maung, kelat, masam pekat, semua ada. Polygami adalah sesuatu yang menakutkan for almost every women. Bukan hanya dia....mungkin saya juga. Why?? Banyak alasan untuk itu. Jika kita ingin membicarakan tentang adil it can never be adil.  Adil tu very subjective. Kawan saya ni, masih tidak dapat menerima hakikat bahawa dia telah dimadukan. Bahawa suaminya kini sudah mempunyai seorang lagi isteri. Dan kerana itulah, kehidupannya agak huru hara sekarang. Saya betul betul simpati. Secara jujurnya, saya memahami situasi yang dia alami. 

I am not against polygamy. And also does not want to say that I agree. Andainya ditakdirkan saya dimadukan, saya memohon from Allah SWT supaya give me all the strength and patience to deal with it. 

I know that my friend loves her husband very much. Every wife does. She cannot bear the fact that now the love has been divided into two. Love ni pun very subjective. Susah nak cakap. Bukannya an object that can be divided equally. Even with our own children pun, kadang kita ni ada anak yang lebih kita sayang. Ini kan pula dengan isteri. Tapi saya nak kawan saya tahu...…Please love yourself more. You have everything that you want. Love from the kids, friends and relatives. Luxurious life, stable working career. It just that, now you have to share your husband with someone else. And for me, this is the time for you to have you own time. You can do what you want to do (with permission granted from your husband). In fact your husband still loves you…but at the same time, he loves another women..hhehhe. Live life to the fullest. Live With No Regrets. Love With No Limits. When your is husband is not around, you can spend your time with family and friends, which you cannot do that for the last 20 years. For the whole 20 years, you’ve devoted yourself to him. Now, you have a break.

As a wife, treat your husband accordingly when he is around.  Bukan suruh derhaka lak..Do what wives always do. Don’t think so much about him being with another wife. Nanti your life suffer. When you keep thinking..thinking..thinking and thinking again.....bykler tanduk tanduk yg kuar nanti..hmm..ckp senang ler saya ni...hehhehee.

I don’t want to see you suffer and miserable. I want you to be happy. As happy as before....So next trip...jommm...Cuti Cuti Luar Negara..hehhehhe

Notakaki:  I dun know what my life would be in the future…huhuhuhu…