Showing posts with label Motivasi. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Motivasi. Show all posts

Tuesday, 11 February 2014

Don't Forget Your Girlfriends

It's meant for all of us - women 

Gambar ehsan google

One of my old friends shared this with me...i dunno from where she got it, but i really love it. 

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and talking with her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear,sober glance upon her daughter.

"Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends.

Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember that "girlfriends" are not only your friends, but your sisters,your daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women always do."

'What a funny piece of advice,' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! -- a grownup. Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life.

After almost 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:

Times passes. 

Life happens. 

Distance separates. 

Children grow up. 
Love waxes and wanes. 
Hearts break. 
Careers end. 
Jobs come and go. 
Parents die. 
Colleagues forget favors. 
Men don't call when they say they will.

BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley, and you have to walk it for yourself, your girlfriends will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you. Or come in and carry you out. My  mother, sister, sister-in-law, "sisters," extended family, and friends bless my life! 

The world wouldn't be the same without them, and neither would I.

When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

Saturday, 15 December 2012


Very nice article. Written by Sheikh Khalid Yasin.

‎"After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

May Allah (SWT) bless our mothers and fathers, Ameen!

Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Sengsaranya Menangguhkan Kerja

Kerja kat office melambak lambak. Kat umah pun sama. Rasa macam tidak cukup 24 jam untuk buat kerja dan buat semua perkara. Nak di abaikan, rasa semak mata. Sambil termenung menung menengok kerja yang tak sudah sudah ni, terpandang plak akak pada artikel ni..hehehe..e.

Ditulis oleh:  Hj Abdul Hamid Kamaruddin (ITM)

Proorastination bermaksud tabiat suka menangguhkan atau melengahkan kerja. Mengikut Denis Waitley, Pakar Pembangunan Diri bahawa mereka yang suka menangguhkan kerja perlu membayar harga yang tinggi kerana tabiat itu.  Mereka akan  hidup dalam kegelisahan, merasa letih dan kerja yang tertangguh ini akan menghantui diri mereka sendiri.  Akibatnya mereka akan terkena penyakit dan kesihatan mereka akan turut terganggu.

Ramai menyangka kerja tertangguh ini terdapat di tempat kerja sahaja, tetapi sebenarnya ia mencakupi tugas tugas kita seharian yang lain.  Umpamanya bil bil air, letrik dan telefon yang lambat dibayar kemungkinan perkhidmatannya di potong. (Memang betul..heehhehe). Kita juga akan rugi dan mendapat susah.

Begitu juga dalam kesihatan. Kita berlengah berjumpa doktor sehingga sudah terlalu serius baru berbuat demikian, menjadikan tidak banyak yang boleh diselamatkan lagi. Dalam buku The Joy of Working by Denis Waitley (akak tak jumpa lagi buku ini..) beliau mencadangkan lapan teknik untuk mengatasi penyakit menangguh-nangguhkan kerja ini:

  1. Senaraikan kerja yang tertangguh
  2. Membuatnya serta merta
  3. Jika mendapat masalah memulakannya, tetapkan waktu khas untuk melaksanakannya.
  4. Bayangkan anda mempunyai satu tahun sahaja untuk hidup dan buat matlamat memenuhi hasrat yang hendak dilakukan dalam tempoh tersebut.
  5. Jangan risau untuk mencapai kesempurnaan. Yang penting ialah kualiti usaha usaha yang dilaksanakan. 
  6. Jika perkara yang tertangguh itu melibatkan orang lain, berjumpalah dengannya agar dapat mencari jalan penyelesaian yang terbaik. 
  7. Atasi ketakutan anda dari membuatnya kerana yang paling buruk mungkin kecil atau tidak wujud sama sekali. 
  8. Bayangkan betapa leganya anda apabila kerja tertangguh dapat di sempurnakan. 

Itulah antara kata kata nasihat dari Denis Waitley. 

Peringantan  untuk diri sendiri ni...adoiii........asik suka menangguhkan kerja...

Monday, 29 October 2012

How to Improve Your Life

Artikel ni pun terpampang dalam cubicle akak. Tp siapa penulisnya, wallahualam....


  1. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about
  2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
  3. Don't overdo; keep your limits
  4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one does
  5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
  6. Dream more while you are awake
  7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need
  8. Forget issues of the past.  Don't remind your partner/friends of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness
  9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.  Don't hate others
  10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
  11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
  12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lesson you learn will last a lifetime
  13. Smile and laugh more
  14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree
  1. Call your family often
  2. Each day give something good to others
  3. Forgive everyone for everything
  4. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
  5. Try to make at least three people smile each day
  6. What other people think of you is none of your business
  7. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch. 
  1. Put ALLAH first in anything and everything that you think, say and o
  2. ALLAH heals everything
  3. Do the right things
  4. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
  5. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
  6. The best is yet to come
  7. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
  8. When you awake alive in the morning, thank ALLAh for it
  9. If you know ALLAH you will always be happy. So, be happy.